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Overgiving at the Expense of You?

Ishtar: Boundaries

“Love yourself enough to say no to others’ demands on your time and energy.”

Message from Ishtar: ““A sincere desire to give of service is wonderful. However, there is a distinction between giving of yourself and giving up yourself. If you feel tired, guilty, or resentful while helping others, then you are not truly helping them, are you? You are injecting poisonous energies into the relationship, and then no one benefits. Step back and reassess the situation. As you respect your own boundaries, others will begin to recognize and respect them within you, and within themselves as well. Now that is a healthy behavior to teach others!

Various meanings of this card:

You are giving too much. • Become more assertive. • Do not do things out of guilt or obligation

About Ishtar:: “She has been worshiped and invoked since ancient Babylonian times as the embodiment of Venus’s womanly energy. Ishtar represents the Divine feminine in all of her aspects, including nurturing, mothering, sensuality, fertility, healing, protection, and wisdom. As a multidimensional goddess, Ishtar does not tire of helping the men and women who call upon her for assistance.

(excerpted from Goddess Guidance Oracle Deck booklet)

(deck used: Goddess Guidance Oracle (

Roxy's Take on this card:

When Ishtar shows up, I feel like checking all over my body to see if I have left something open on my Earth suit, because I'm feeling a draft on my hindquarters. Or to put it another way: I feel like I have driven off and left the gas nozzle attached to my fuel tank, because something feels like it's dragging behind me, kicking up sparks!

I also start to feel a little embarrassed. Her appearance means only one thing “Are You Doing a Bit Too Much for Others and not enough for Yourself?”

You may be dimly aware that the Overachiever's Mantra goes something like this:

“I’m just being nice and treating others like I want them to treat me. I'm teaching others how I like to be treated”

But there comes a time when you need to stop the "lesson time" long enough for you to see if your intended "students" have learned enough to show you the behavior you want in return – right?

This is especially true for people-pleasing folk who are weaker on establishing boundaries.

Since when has popularity polls ever meant a hill of beans anyways?

If you cannot trust that others will actually show up for you when you ask them to, then you’ve got a bigger problem than your silent education session are seeing to. The problem lies with the quality of folks in your life. Or you’re so busy doing it all, that you aren’t allowing them to do their own razzamatazz for your benefit.

Ishtar shows up to say: Put those low self-esteem, victim perpetrating practices to the curb.

You are worthy of being appreciated and SHOWN that appreciation.

You are far more VALUABLE by just BEING you, than for just doing stuff.

It is time to allow the magical flow of plentiful loving regard wash over you. Rest your tootsies and delegate so you can be more You – Which if you take on this self-affirming activity, you can be the incredibly rested and adorable person that you truly are.

And if you find you don’t have appreciation from people outside of you, then start appreciating yourself for being You. Put down the extra activities and allow yourself to attract what you need without busting a sweat.

Don’t worry, you’ll have a day when you’ll want or will need to pitch in. But now, Ishtar says Learn how to say NOPE. I respectfully decline! You’ll be glad you did!

And as usual, I am not preaching from the mountain tops – this is my deepest and most challenging of personal lessons. But since we all are getting better and better each and every day, I say, let's try it Ishtar's way.

Here's an affirmation to love and let peace flow:

"I love myself enough to say Nope” to more responsibilities. I delegate freely and with ease. I accept help with an open heart”

And so it is.

And So It Is.

Namaste & Peace - Roxy Angel Superstar

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